Its a nice feeling to help others.. to be a support to them when they are in distress... Its nice to share their sorrows and be with them when they are in need of us... And after the problem gets solved its nice to think that we were with them during their problem... helping them to come out ....

A friend in need is a friend indeed.. All of us have grown up hearing this... But how many of us really help ppl when they are in need?

I'm happy that i was with my friend when she was in need of me... :-))))))))

The 90/10 priinciple!!!

Was going through my gmail inbox... Thanks to gmail fo the storage capacity they have provided... have not deleted a mail since created.... So to while away some time this afternoon was going through old mailw hich i recieved months earlier... There was one particular mail which allured me... so was reading..and suddenly got an idea of showcasing it in my blog ..so here i'm ...

The 90/10 PrincipleAuthor : Stephen Covey (Management Guru)

Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life isdecided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other90% is different.You determine the other 90%.

How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.Why?Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".You had no control over what happened with the coffee.",

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should havehappened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
Theother 90% was determined by your reaction.Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have tolet the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.

A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel?
A friend of mine had the steeringwheel fall off . Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let thecars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?

She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.

Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is abore and often seems cruel.

Does this describe you?

If so, do not be discouraged..You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!

Hope you will be benefited.......

if u are benefited say a thanx to the author "Stephen Covey" and me. :-)))))))))))))))))))

To you, from me.

I have a list of folks I know
all written in a book,
And every now and then
I go and take a look

That is when I realize
these names they are a part,
not of the book they're written in...
but taken from the heart.

For each Name stands for someone
who has crossed my path sometime,
and in that meeting they have become
the reason and the rhyme

Although it sounds fantastic
for me to make this claim,
I really am composed of
each remembered name.

Although you're not aware
of any special link,
just knowing you, has shaped my life
more than you could think.

So please don't think my
greeting as just a mere routine,
For when I send a greeting
that is addressed to you,

It's because you're on the list
of folks I'm indebted to.
So whether I have known you
for many days or few,

In some ways you have a part
in shaping things I do.
I am but a total of
the many folks I've met,

You are a friend I would prefer..
never to forget.

Fate determines who comes into our lives .... Heart determines who stays....

Read this beautiful verse in a mail... Somebody had signed it.. Sounds true isnt it? We meet so many ina day..but not all make an imapct in us... Only a chosen few... And when we make friends we distinguish them even ina big crowd..Isnt it the power of friendship???

Few Relations In Earth Never Die-- The first letter of each word forms one beautiful word, FRIEND.

Are relationships not eternal?

Be it friendship or love , for that matter any relationship... cant they be eternal? Are they so volatile? Why arent people commited? Not generalising and i accept exceptions are always there... But why is there discrimination between people.. Why do we have preferences? We like someone and we dont like someone and few we have no idea about them.. Their presence or absence is immaterial to us... Why is that we have preferences when everybody are human beings... God has gifted us with the right to choose our friends... OUt of the many we meet we make few as our friends... But once u make them friends why is that they move away from us? How is it possible for them to move apart? Does distance matter a lot? What if we dont meet everyday or very often? Does the quality of friendship we shared reduce? We need to be blessed to share such eternal friendships... But in reality every relationship seems to be lasting for a specified period of time..none seems to be eternal... At one point of time there is noone whom we know around us.. we find all new faces but then as time moves on the new faces which we met become close ot us.. again after sometime some more new faces.. they ebcome familiar... the cycle goes on and on... The things here is we should not take these close to our hearts because when we move away it hurts... When we like something we must also have the heart to leave it go ...

Men may come and men may go but I go on for ever..... - Lord Alfred Tennyson.

Nishaan...

Haseen lamhein...
Sareer lamhein...
Sharmile lamhein...
Zizagte lamhein...
Pigalte lamhein...
Dhadhate lamhein...
Dil ki pagdandiyon par, apne pairon ke nishaan chodh gaye hai...
Mausam badalte hai...
Hawayein chalte...
Lekin Yeh nishaan...
Na mitte hai...
Na halke hote hai...

Tumhara Naam!!!

Tumhara naam meri dhadkano mein shamil hai...
Tumahara naam meri saason mein basa hai...
Tumhara naam.. meri tan badan mein zindagi banke rehta hai...
Sun sako to suno...
Ke in fizao ke hoto par bhi tumhara hi naam hai...
Aa sako... to aajao...
ke mere saath... yeh fizayen bhi...
sadiyon se tumhara intzaar mein....

Judgement !!!

Read this beautiful story ... Thot can share it with u'll......

Judgement means a stale state of mind. And the mind always wants judgement,because to be in an unknown process is always hazardous and uncomfortable.Be very, very courageous, don't stop growing; live in the moment, simplystay in the flow of life.This story happened in the days of Lao Tzu in China, and Lao Tzu loved itvery much:There was an old man in a village, very poor, but even kings were jealous ofhim because he had a beautiful white horse. Kings offered fabulous prizesfor the horse, but the man would say, "This horse is not a horse to me, heis a person. And how can you sell a person, a friend?" The man was poor, buthe never sold the horse.One morning he found that the horse was not in the stable. The whole villagegathered and said, "You foolish old man! We knew that someday the horsewould be stolen. It would have been better to sell it. What a misfortune!"The old man said, "Don't go so far as to say that. Simply say that the horseis not in the stable. This is the fact; everything else is judgement.Whether it is a misfortune or a blessing I don't know, because this is justa fragment. Who knows what is going to follow it?"People laughed at the old man. They had always known he was a little crazy.But after fifteen days, suddenly one night the horse returned. He had notbeen stolen, he had escaped into the wild. And not only had he return, hebrought a dozen wild horses with him.Again the people gathered and they said, "Old man, you were right. This wasnot a misfortune, it has indeed proved to be a blessing."The old man said, "Again you are going too far. Just say that the horse isback... who knows whether it is a blessing or not?" It is only a fragment.You read a single word in a sentence - how can you judge the whole book?"This time the people could not say much, but inside they knew that he waswrong. Twelve beautiful horses had come.The old man had an only son who started to train the horses. Just a weeklater he fell from a horse and his legs were broken. The people gatheredagain, and again they judged. They said, "Again you proved right! It was amisfortune. Your only son has lost the use of his legs, and in your old agehe was your only support. Now you are poorer than ever."The old man said, "You are obsessed with judgement. Don't go that far. Sayonly that my son had broken his legs. Life comes in fragments and more isnever given to you."It happened that after a few weeks the country went to war, and all theyoung men of the town were forcibly taken for the military. Only the oldman's son was left because he was crippled. The whole town was crying andweeping, because it was a losing fight and they knew that most of the youngpeople would never come back. They came to the old man and they said, " Youwere right, old man - this has proved a blessing. Maybe your son iscrippled, but he is still with you. Our sons are gone forever."The old man said again, "You go on and on judging. Nobody knows! Only saythis, that your sons have been forced to enter the army and my son has notbeen forced. But only God, who sees the total picture, knows whether it is ablessing or a misfortune."Judge not, otherwise you will never become one with the total. Withfragments you will be obsessed, with small things you will jump toconclusions. Once you judge you have stopped growing. Judgement means astale state of mind. And the mind always wants judgement, because to be in aprocess is always hazardous and uncomfortable.In fact, the journey never ends. One path ends, another begins: one doorcloses, another opens. You reach a peak; a higher peak is always there. Godis an endless journey. Only those who are so courageous that they don'tbother about the goal, but are content with the journey, can be content tojust live in the moment and grow into it; only those are able to walk in the total.

Neglection !!!

Neglection is the worst punishment that can be ever given to a person. And that too when he is not wrong that become the most deadliest punishment ever possible...All parents bring up their children with so much of love and care.... they give them food to eat even when they dont have anything to eat.. they at times starve to feed their children.... Fathers toil a lot to bring up their children.. and a mothers effort is no less... But then why dont children understand them??? They enjoy all pleasures till they earn and are of good health but once they become old and tired of taking up so much burden why do children bandon their own father and mother who spent all their lives toiling to bring their children.... What makes them to act so? And coz of this there are lot of Old Age homes growing up every here and there in and around the city...It is a shame on us that its due to we children that there are so many old age homes ... Isnt it the childrens' duty to ake of their parents??? Dont children see the pain in their parents eyes? Dont they understand the sacrifice they have done to bring them up to this level? Why do children behave so ungratefully??? i'm not here to generalise but then the increasing numbers of old age homes stand as a proof to the fact that children neglect their parents...Are we not bound to keep them happy? Dont we owe them for all that they have done for us? They have not done anything wrong that they deserve to be neglected...Not a single moment would they have thought about themselves...they would have spent their lives only thinking about us... And we forget to think about them in a stage where they need care, support, love and affection.... How much they would have dreamt about us... We would have been their dream... They try to achieve everything what they wanted to be through us... Arent we their dream? How can we act so selfish and abandon them? Isnt it the biggest mistake we do? Dont we need their blessings to achieve our dreams? What if they have abandned us when we were in a stage where we needed help for every small movement in us??? So its high time for us to wake up and do all things possible to keep our parents happy... So what if its difficult??? For a friend of mine said
"There is nothing in this world thats impossible... maybe the difficult ones takes a longer more time"... isnt it true??? So lets realise our duties and do everything to keep our parents smiling
through rest of their lives....:-)

Kaise batayen???

kaise batayen...aur kisko batayen ki...
kaise thi woh muskurahaten... jinme zindagi ki ujale they...
Kaise thi woh nigahe... jo is dilko chhuleti thi...
Kaise thi woh kamoshiyan... jo kahaniya sunati thi...
Kaise they woh haat... jo ab in haaton mein nahi hai...

Silence is Golden!!!

Silence is golden.... and i have experienced that today.. It speaks volumes... Instead of talking for hours together to make ur opponent feel that they are wrong its nice to keep silent and give them some time and space to think, understand, feel the pain... This way u dont lose ur dignity too.. All this happens provided the person is wise enough to analyse things on their own without anything being told.... And it happened today.... A small smile has spread on my face after a very long time.... :-) ...
I pray God " ........................................................................... (Silence again...:-)....)

Give me some time? Shall pay u for that....

Subject: Is this where we are heading to?


A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-yearold son waiting for him at the door.
"Daddy, may I ask you a question?"
"Yeah sure, what is it?" replied the man. "Daddy, how much do you make anhour?"
"That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?" the man saidangrily.
"I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"pleaded the little boy."If you must know, I make $20 an hour."
"Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down. Looking up, he said,"Daddy, may I please borrow $10?"
The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked that is so you canborrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then youmarch yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why youare being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childishbehavior."
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man satdown and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. Howdare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $10 and hereally didn't ask for money very often. The man went tothe door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
"Are you asleep, son?" He asked.
"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.
"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier," said the man,"It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the$10you asked for."
The little boy sat straight up, smiling. "Oh, thank you daddy!" He yelled.Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. Theman, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at his father.
"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the fathergrumbled.
Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied."Daddy, I have $20 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come homeearly tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you."
Share this story with someone you like.... But even better, share $20worth of time with someone you love. It's just a short reminder to all ofyou working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through ourfingers without having spent sometime with those who really matter to us,those close to our hearts.
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easilyreplace us in a matter of days. But the family & friends we leftbehind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come tothink of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family anunwise investment indeed.


(Dont u feel its true???... Wanna say it to u buddy but then not able to catch hold of u...:-(

Maraka mudiyuma???

Ulaga medaiyil manida jadiyil uravu nadagangal...
Eranda pozhudum nam ninaivil thangidum idhaya gnayabagangal...
Inimaiyanavar endra podum ...
Kodumaiyanavar endra podum...
Maraka mudiyuma????
Maraka mudiyuma????

The Trouble Tree...

Its nice if we dont mix up our problems... read the following saga u'll understand it better.. By doing so life becomes pretty easy.. and can made very happy....

The narration goes like this........
I hired a plumber to help me restore an old farmhouse, and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job, a flat tire made him lose an hour of work & his electric drill quit, his ancient one ton truck refused to start. As I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.
On arriving he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. Upon opening the door he had undergone an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.
Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do at the little tree.
"Oh, that's my trouble tree," he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, those troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them. Then in the morning I pick them up again." Funny thing is," he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick them up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."

Sweet Monday!!!

It rained... And everything is looking very new..All the plants and trees look very fresh.. and even the wind that strikes ur face bears a chillness.. And that smell from thta first rain during summer... wow.. its jus awesome :-) .. For the past two weeks it was like some thing was making me very sad.. but now aftre this rain its like everything is washed out... Happiness is filled from within.. which can even be read from my face...
Everything is very nice and beautiful around... Can feel the freshness around... Life seems to be very beautiful... A change is always nice right? Wow the climate outside is so good..Its dark outside a nice climate for a picnic.. hihihi ..oh my God what ideas??? Hmm something i dont know what but still i'm very happy... Usually Mondays are "Black Mondays" for me.. but then today is something different....:-)