Obey or not?

If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun!!!

This is my fortune for the day in Orkut... What are they suggesting me??? Follow and be a good girl or disobey and be a brat?

Whew!!!! I have given a damn new look to my blog... :)

Gul and Tea...

My morning starts with the alarm sound going on at 5.30 am.. trrinnnnnngg... It takes another 5 to 10 mins to wriggle out of the bed.. hen by the time i open my eyes widely its 15 mins past my alarm... oops i got to pack things for H.. :( Let me start..

I do everything properly except one... As i dont fall into the category of those who drink tea and coffee this often slips out of my mind... I happily get the other stuffs ready and in a half sleepy mode sit on the couch.. its then H asks for his coffee.. man i then remember i haven't even kept the teapot on the oven..:P

How much i said i will marry a guy who never drinks tea or coffee so i need not it make it... but now???? this is the only complaint against me saying "Aunty, your daughter doesn't make tea for me without me asking for it... I got to ask her every other day to make some for me..."... oops.. sorry..:D gee

Anyways I thank God as H is not a teapot asking for tea always..:P thereby me making tea is very limited to twice a day.. mostly its only once..:P God knows how it tastes for i have never tasted tea in my life. and the tea i make seems to be ok and at times good..:P hear say guys...:)

world or part of your world???????

Last week as i was talking to a friend of mine the conversation steered towards the concept of spouse being everything to you. I was on the contrary saying that a spouse can only be part of your world though the percentage of how much he/she means in your world being a different issue but definitely cant be your world. She argued that "NO. Your spouse is your world"..

Though our conversation stopped at this limit on that day it was a big question within me and kept me thinking more and more on it. How can your spouse mean the world to you? In that case nothing others matters is it?

One makes his or her own world till the he or she gets married and all of a sudden erase everything and make your spouse your world? How on earth is it possible? As far as i think you can make him or her very much to be a part of your world and as time moves on and as you get to know your spouse more and more the percentage of how much they mean in your world changes but still you have your own world.

Each one forms his or her own world according to his/her fancies. Some have books as part of their world.. some dance.. some music... some friends.. some cooking.. some home making... some their garden.. some cars... some bikes... or some little of everything mentioned above...They have their own personal space in which they do not let anyone step in be it anyone....

In this case how can a spouse be your world... I have a question here.. You get married and your spouse is your everything.. Fine... After some years when you have your kids aren't they part of your world too? Then how can you say spouse is your world? Why your parents who sweat so much to bring you up aren't part of your world after you get married?

So I concluded your spouse is a (significant) part of your world and not its entirety...

I posed the same question to few others too and got answers of both types...

God Bless them all!!!

A rewind button...

A: Hey pose for the snap..

B: Hey no.. I dont like to pose for snaps..

What is wrong in posing for a snap? Why being so fussy?

We always remember the past and at times also feel that it would be nice if we can live it again. What if we have a time machine? We want to live those moments again isnt it? But we all know we cant and its impossible to recreate the magic....

The simple solution is photographs.. Don't you think so? Its the greatest way to capture the moment and its fun when you look at it years later... I have pictures taken from day 1 of my birth. Its fun when i look at it now. My favourite pass time is to bring those big big albums and sit with mom and see all the pics. While doing so we talk about all those happened during that time. :) We almost get back to those time.

In fact i had sent home the pics i took last week and on seeing it dad said she has the same kind of pose when she was 1 year old... ie.. as walking on the road i just turn my head back to see... :) I don't remember what happened when i was 1 year old but then the fact that my dad had gone back a quarter century was a nice thing..:)

Living so far from my loved ones photographs are the only way i keep in touch with them... Every change that happens with me is shared with them through photographs... be it remodelling the house or something i cooked or my new hairstyle, my new wall hanging, my new furnitures..:D Sounds crazy but for a person who has always grown discussing everything with her parents this means a way that can bridge the geographical separation..:)

You can find the photograph-fussy-people saying no no i dont like to pose for a photograph... no please.....no please.... man nobody thinks you are a Katrina Kaif or a John Abraham... Its just to capture the moment as it brings nice memories when you see it later...

Not necessary that you have to stand in the picture but even pictures of landscapes make you remember the events that happened when you visited that place...

Whatever be it or whoever fusses for posing but for me framing the past is the best way to rewind time...:)

Happy photographing and Happy posing!!!!!

i'm back...

Its been quite some time since i have been to my blog world... There were so many things that stopped me from coming here... One of the reason being Laziness... :P

One main reason that made me come back is that i was in facebook and was also doing well with farmville... but somehow got bored with facebook as such and thought rather get back to my blog world and do some useful stuffs too...

So i'm here.. :D and have been busy writing.. Man this is my third post for the day... :P

Cya...

My Hero...

I love him the most....

I respect him the most...

He is my all time hero...

He is my teacher...

He means the most to me...

I can do anything for him...

He is my... Daddy!!!!!

This is how i call him. He was the one who taught me to be bold and face any situation. He taught me how to make decisions. He taught me the difference between the man's world and the women folk's world. He also taught me how to bridge the gap and is still helping me around with it as i'm new to it for now i'm in a position where i got to make decisions. :)

He taught me the value of being transparent in a family and how any situation need to be handled. He taught me to be honest and imparted all the moral values and principles of life. He has always been an armour for our family and i'm so proud to be his daughter. Having worked with the nation's force he also taught us what discipline is. :) All these morals might be small as a word when you hear it but when you live with it then you realise the real meaning.

He was the one who taught me that life has to be lived with principles and not anyway. He also taught that one should have control over situation and not let the situation control. He was the one who taught me to stand by what i decide and be firm on it come what may...

We have had the best of interactions which i will always cherish...

At times i wonder how i would have been if i was not his daughter but then i think that could have been the worst curse i could have ever got.

I miss you daddy....

What made me write this post?????

There are a few instances where i came across those people who don't have the best of relationships with their father. One says she hasn't been talking to her father for 2 years now and the other is always rebellious to a father who loves him the most and would do anything for him. How can one behave like this to a father for whom their children mean everything?

Though you know it yourself i have never told you that...

I LOVE YOU DADDY!!!!!

and i know you will always be there for me... :)

Life

If you feel life it is a tragedy,

and if you think about it its comedy.....

What is important, the way things are done to get the solution or just the solution irrespective of how you arrive at it?

A cheap Stunt...

Just to show oneself good why do we have to show others bad? Isnt that character assassination? How long will such type of a show last? How difficult it is to build a right image and all in drain just for one's selfish cheap stunt?

Call of the day!!!!!

The quantum of air that we breathe, the quantum of food that we eat are all the same except for the purity and nutritious value is the same. Then why do we show too much discrimination. Arent everybody the same? Then why this show off everywhere?

Is GILT the call of the day???????

Love

Love is a beautiful feeling wherein, you are more than willing to change yourself for others rather than trying to find who will suit you the best.....

Reading blogs have become one my new interesting time pass.. I wouldn't exactly say a time pass coz at times they are a nice entertainment and at times they make us think... Blogging these days have become a nice medium where one can pen down their feelings.. Let the world know what they have to say.. There is no right or wrong for what one feels is right is wrong for someone else..

Leaving all that apart, today i read a very nice post which talks about housewives... A very nice narration.. The world looks down on us when one says she is a housewife. Here the author describes in an aptly fitting description..:) She calls herself a "Research Associate in the field of Child development and Human Relations" :)

I just loved her post and here comes her post as follows...

A woman named Mili renewing her driver's license at the Clerk's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you just a...

"Of course I have a job," snapped Mili. "I'm a mother."

"We don't list 'mother' as an occupation... 'housewife' covers it," said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar." "What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it, I do not know... The words simply popped out. "I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (the whole darned family), and already have two credits, (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistant - age 13 . Upstairs I could hear our upcoming experimental model, (a 7 year old ), in the child-development program, testing out a new 'interior designing' pattern.

I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another mother."

Motherhood...What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers "Executive Senior Research Associates"? I think so!!!

I also think it makes Aunts "Associate Research Assistants".

How dependable????

It is said that our brain is much more superior than a computer.. It can think and perform so many actions. Accepted..but off late how much we depend on electronic gadgets.

Before i had a phone for myself, I used to remember so many phone numbers.. there wasn't a need for me to have a phone book to remind me of numbers and also i used to remember all important events in the family and outside like birthdays, wedding anniversaries and so on... but now that i have got used to the phone i don't remember any number.. and having an alarm set for events has made me forget all important dates...

To be frank I don't remember my own number at times and have it stored in my phone... Living outside my country i should at least be remembering a few important contact numbers, but I'm so dependable that i don't even make an effort to remember any. I just cant imagine if i lose my phone then i will be left stranded... Its always better to have a few important numbers written down in a seperate pocket diary or to remember just in case of any emergency....

Hope I try to change this habit of mine and try to remember at least a few important numbers...

And today is my best friend's b'day and i totally forgot about it.. Usually its I who wish him first at 12 in the night. :) Its been a ritual strictly followed for the past 8 years... Yesterday for some reason or the other i couldn't fall asleep and was thinking why??????? Finally i remembered... Though I was half an hour late I did wish him...:) Thankfully i remembered.. Else I would have felt very bad... :)

What are you left with when you forget your TODAY thinking about your TOMORROW?

?????

What are you left with when you run the race called LIFE just with a goal of getting to a nice position, making your future secure, always thinking about tomorrow?

Fine, everyone needs to run the race to make your future secure but along with that don't we have to live our TODAY? Life is always about memories... Its how beautifully you live your today so that they become a nice memory in future... When you turn back and see its only memories that you are left with.

How is it possible for one to think instead of spending some time for self if i build my professional contacts the gain would be more.... You might be seen as a very wise person or a very ambitious person... You succeed in one aspect of life and fail miserably in the other.. Is professional life alone enough for a person? Don't you need a social life too? After all man works to lead a happy life.. Of course it all depends on what happiness means for each person...

Isn't man a social animal?

A nice thought...

Got it as a forward....

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to hot coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups and were eying each other's cups.

Now if life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. Some times, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it."

Don't let the cups drive you... Enjoy the coffee instead.!

Silence

Since i have come to Dubai my phone has become completely dormant. No phone calls, no sms... it has become totally inactive. The only phone call i get is from my husband to let me know about his whereabouts. Missed calls from home so that i come online to talk to them.... Otherwise there is no use of my phone..

There were times when my phone was full time engaged. :) Those were times when i was in college and at work. Evenings were totally dedicated for phone calls. How much i used to be scolded by my mother. :) Hours of gabbing because of CUG. Missed calls to say "Miss U... " during holidays after exams.... or simply to irritate...:)

All gossips and revisiting what happened during the day or giving updates of what happened at college....along with dad's scolding "Wrong use of graham bell's invention... Phone is for passing on important information and not for spending time..."

How much revision has been done during exam times. Important portions, important questions, even lectures... Calls at inhuman hours to friends before the exam day.

Non stop rubbish just to keep me awake in the cab when i used to leave late from office...

How can i forget about birthdays... phone starts ringing right at 12 continuously... and it continues through out the day.

Now.... at times i forget to check whether there is charge in my phone or not... :(((((((( Absolutely no junk sms.... :) How much i used to get angry when i get the same repeated sms n number of times; but now i feel there was a kinda closeness which always puts the senders face in front of your mind...

how we used to send long stories in sms as calls were charged and smses were free... :)

Cheers!!!!
Gul...

நான் தமிழில் எழுதி பல நாட்கள் ஆகின்றது. இன்று போஸ்ட் செய்யும் போது தமிழிலும் போஸ்ட் செய்ய முடியும் என்று அறிந்து மகிழ்ந்தேன். பல நாட்கள் கழித்து தமிழில் எழுதுகிறேன். மிகவும் சந்தோஷமாக இருக்கிறது. பல தடவை நான் தமிழில் எழுதுவதையே மறந்துவிடுவேன் என்று நினைத்தேன். ஆனால் இன்று தமிழில் எழுதியது மிகவும் மகிழ்ச்சியாக இருக்கின்றது.

வாழ்க தமிழ் வளர்க தமிழ்!!!!!

What am i doing now?

Jobless... :P

just chatting with my friend and watching June ponal on SS Music...

Man i want a changeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!! Life sucks as its become a little monotonous.

Made me feel special

I'm so happy today. There are two reasons for it. One is that my best friend is getting engaged to his long time girl friend and i'm very much excited about it. The engagement was fixed one day prior to my visit to India. I was very upset about it. And there came a call from him saying it has been postponed to the day i reach India so that I would be able to attend the engagement. Wow.. i'm so very excited. My joy is boundless. I just dont have the words to explain. :) I feel so nice to have such a great friend who has made me feel special in so many ways. I was the one who first knew about his lady love and now he has got his engagement changed for me. :) TOUCHWOOD!!! I pray we remain such great friends forever. I'm so happy to have found a great friend in him.

May God shower his choicest blessings on them.... :)

Today morning I felt very lazy to make breakfast... so was just lazying around.... but of course i felt very hungry... was simply drinking some water to postpone my getting up from the bed to make breakfast... and my next-door-aunt was making some delicious dish which smelt so damn good... i wished she knocked my door and gives me some to eat... :(

Its how long since i ate something that is not cooked by me.. Everyday i have to cook my own food... man its boring!!!!! How much i liked, mom cook food for me and even serve it on my plate to eat... how much i would wait till she serves it for me... self service was something not in my vocabulary.. :( and now i got to cook.. i got to serve my own food..... grrrrrrr and the agony is i have to eat it alone....

How much i used to hate those idlis... ask me now??? i will do anything for those steaming white idlis...


I still remember telling "ma!! why are you making the same thing again and again? Everyday idli, dosa or chapathi... vera edavadu seyungalen...." Now i spend hours to think what to cook for the next meal... i harldy get any idea... thanks to the samayal blogs.. else i would have become obsolete by now...

A friend of mine from my school days.. She used to be very chubby then... Though we were in touch through phone i happened to meet her when we joined work... We happened to work in the same area... I was shocked to see her so slim and nice... I asked her.. "Hey Sandy epdi di ivlo slim aaite?" She said "Slim my foot... Podi podi... hostel sapadu panna vela..Ippo en amma pullu (grass) platela vaicha kooda naan sapiduven..."..It was then i udnerstood it was not slimming but the effect of being malnourished for four years in her college hostel.... I also feel the same i will eat anything my mom makes without any question... not even to ask her how she made it....

Seriously there is no comparison for home made food... and especially if somebody makes it for you... man its bliss....

I still remember how U aunty used to send me akkaravadisal in a separate tiffin and another tiffin for the rest....


And how can i forget her tasty tasty rice payasam....

man i wish someone cooks for me today and i sit and eat... ok let me go now and make something to eat.. :(((((((((

This is how it works....

I saw a poster which read the fine amount on violating the traffic rule for the first time is 5000 dhs (for Dirham to Rupee conversion click here) and on the second time it would be 10000 dhs... 5000 dhs is more than the monthly salary of some people in this country... No wonder with such a high amount as fine anybody would think about violating the rules... A friend was spot fined a amount of 6000 dhs for violating the rules....

Here the speed limits is controlled by radar and there is no chance of you escaping without being noticed... Your fine amount will automatically be added to your account for each violation... The other day i heard in the radio that a woman has accumulated an amount of 75000 dhs in Dubai and the other emirates.. out of which 35000 dhs is in dubai itself... I dont deny the fact that there are traffic violations here but mostly people do follow the traffic rules...

People cross the road only in the pedestrian crossing... otherwise people are fined... Signals function properly... Even at round about where there is no signal vehicles wait and let the other person go and then move... I have not seen any traffic police standing there at every signal... Vehicles do stop well within the limits in the signal... they do follow the lane rules...

Lanes rules are something that is only in paper in India.. How many times have we witnessed that vehicles just speed up at the moment you have the red signal... How many times have we witnessed people crossing the roads just like that not waiting for the signal... how many people cross the median which has iron grills (barricades)...

We awe about the lane disciplines being followed in foreign countries... but how many of us are ready to put it in action... Why is all the rules only put down on paper and not in action? How many signals are not working? its only in the month ends do we see all men in action to book some cases like not wearing helmet... not using the seat belt... no license, not carrying RC book, not stopping at the signal, over speeding... blah blah blah...

When will all these rules be put in action stringently and have severe punishments for violations.. and that is how things will work......

It would be a welcoming effort if traffic rules are being taught in schools... They must be made aware that it they who can bring a change in the future... This must be inculcated in them right from when they are small.... They should be taught that following the lane discipline can save somebody's life....

Act!!!!

How many of us do what we really think or wish to do? Definitely, I don't fall under this category. There are only quite a few who do things what they really want without thinking about the consequences. Otherwise most of us think too much over it and end up not doing it...

What stops us from doing it?????????

Is it because of the fear of what people might think? Or just think how will it end up when its finally done? Or is it because we think whether its the right or wrong thing to be done? What the consequences might be? Will i be able to do it?

Whatever the reasons be we end up not doing it... How many such things remains in our list that we really wanted to do but did not... and when we turn the pages of our lives after many years we do regret for at least few of the things which we did not do... We do feel things could have been different if we had had the courage to do what we really wanted... and face the consequences..

Somehow I feel its better to do what you wanted to (of course with a little right or wrong quotient in your decision) and stand for what come may....

Is this the right way?????

I happen to follow some Singing reality shows due to my interest in music (for the sake of enjoying some nice singing by some trained singers).... These reality shows are to find that talent who is really capable of and is worth it... There are a few judges (of course all musicians) who tell the participants about their singing and the ways how they can improve... They pin point all technicalities... And each participant is given a code and the public has to vote for their favorite contestant... it goes like... "If you want your favourite contestant to go to the next level then please send your votes to 52525 and you can also call and give the code of the contestant and the code for GULMOHAR is GULMOHAR 01"

Is this the way we really have to judge the talent... People get regional votes... Suppose if a person is from a X state.. even if the singer is not as talented as other participants just because the contestant is from that particular X state gets the vote... By this way are selecting the correct talent... All this voting system just to make money... What rubbish?????

Because of this judging system many trained singers are voted out just because they don't get enough votes... Funny way of judging and the worst part is the show is claimed to be the best in the TRP rating...

Isnt it the same way we select people for leading us just because of favourism and not really thinking about their vision and capablities....

Hail Public's judgement!!!!!!

Walk along the Corniche

After many hitches, today I started my walking again. It was 5.30 when I got up and it was very dark... So started by 6.30 and planned to walk in the park near my house.. It was a little crowded and so I changed the route to walk along the Corniche near my house... I haven't been in that route before.

The Corniche street is very close to the creek and is a 6 lane road. It has huge buildings and lovely lawns near the pavement... There is a row of Date Palm trees on either side of the road and lovely yellow colored chrysanthemum flowers at the base of the trees.... it was a lovely sight to see them in the morning... As i walked along the Corniche street, and took a U turn I was taken by surprise to see the sea.... I never thought I would get the view of the sea so near to my house... This street is one of the nicest places I have been in Sharjah....

(The road behind the Hotel Radisson is Corniche street... )

On the return, it was a little bright and all birds were flying and the road was busy with traffic.. yet it was a beautiful sight to see the vehicles following the lane which is a rare sight in my country :(

One can never expect to start a day in a more pleasant way than this...:)

Hope I continue my walking with the same zeal and shed those extra pounds i gained... :)

Happy walking!!!!

My visit to the temple in Dubai

Its almost 4 and half months since i moved to Sharjah... Since then i wanted to visit the temple here and it finally came true yesterday... It is the only Hindu temple in Dubai... This makes my visit a little more special to heart.. :) So my travel consisted of taxi drive, then bus, then walk, and finally a ferry ride to the temple... It was fun... Its almost after so many days did I go to a temple... Had a good dharshan.. though was not allowed to stand and pray more than few seconds... happens when it is the only temple... but my mind was very peaceful after that.. :)

From there I visited the DSF (Dubai Shopping Festival)... It was such a fun to watch such a crowd... Did some shopping and it was almost midnight when I returned back home...

On the whole it was a nice change being outside... :)

what a pain???

Be it a strike for whatever reasons but how much the public are affected.... Its sad that people are not able to go to hospitals, schools... all commodities required for day today life are not available... vegetable prices have shot up like rockets... that too in such a crisis time where people are being kicked out of their jobs... What are people gonna do?????

Anyway its good to see the strike has come to an end...

God save people...

What am i missing?????

Missing home, mom's food, friends, work, radio mirchi, sunday's biriyani, phone calls, messages, get togethers, outing with friends, birthdays, weddings, glass bangles, shopping @ T.Nagar, my dog, my bed, fights with my brother, watching tv with family, hugs from my loved ones, my sarees, train journey, bus journey, long drives, paati's thuvaiyal, idli dosa sambar, mom's muruku, kalkal, rose cookies, samosas, the warmth being at home, gossips with friends, fights for the remote, team outings, team lunch, bike rides, books, flowers......

the list goes on and on and on...............