Being human!!!

Be nice to everyone!!!
Love thy neighbour!!!
Sharing doubles happiness!!!

These are few of the nice things we grew up learning. Everyone of us must have surely heard this umpteen number of times in our lives. We were left wondering what is so difficult to understand in these simple sentences that they were repeated  almost everyday.

Alas! Little did we know then, that they are powerful sentences laid in simple words.

What seemed to be simple while we were small seems to be difficult as we grow up. Indeed the most difficult challenge we can face. We can even successfully build a super robot but live up to these sentences in the true sense.

We were able to make friends black, white, blue, green, pink, purple whilst we were small. We were able to share the most cherished gift, my teddy bear, or things-i-would-think-twice-to-share chocolates or my-prized-possesion bicycle.

As we grew up, all these niceties seem to have flown out of the window. Are we the same we????

Being nice to people turned into pretence. Love thy neighbour turned into keep strangers at bay. The third one need not be discussed at all. Absolutely no space.

Why are we like this? What made us to be such?

Ironically, hatred, envy, partiality, anger, cruelty, selfishness seems to be easy and love the most difficult. Why are we not able to accept people as such? Why being judgemental?

We end up building a wall around us cemented with all these negative feelings.

Love is the only tool with which we can break open the shell around us. It is the only remedy we have to our wounded soul. It is the only hope that can fill us with happiness from within.

Let's try loving people, accepting people for who they are and let's be us.

Let's be human!!!

Friendships day

Happy friends day!!!

This happens to be the twelveth friendships day I share with a special friend of mine. I have not met or spoken to this friend of mine. I have known him only through words.

It fills my heart with an unexplained joy whenever I think of this friendship I share. We are total strangers and yet the best of friends too. I can vouch we wouldn't be able to recognise if we happen to cross each other. Yet we know our families well. We know the milestone developments of our children, situations we tackle in lives. We get the best of advice with not a trace of jealousy or lethargy. We have not attended or witnessed the best moments in our lives but have the best wishes and prayers sent across.

In this technogically advanced times all it takes is just a touch of a button to find people but our friendship remains with no urge to find faces or coordinates. It still holds a yester year flavor to it and that is what makes it extra special.

Where my other friendships that were vouched for life, the ones in which we shared the deepest of secrets, spent hours hanging out seems to have vanished into thin air, we have stuck through thick and thin. Always there like your guardian angel.

I wish we come cross many more friendships day in our lives. So happy friendships day to you. To us.

Amongst all the faded friendships I have had there seems to be one, which is still green, tested through times and emerged as a clear winner. She has transformed herself to be more of an elder sister I don't have. In fact we should be celebrating sisters day rather than friends day. Still the being friends is something special as we choose friends. I have always seen friendship between girls fade away with time but our friendship has seen change of work places, marriage, geographical boundaries, children. Touchwood it still remains like a new found one. It has only become better with time. She has been my pillar of strength in most trying times and I'm sure she would consider me one. She has always been there for me, smacked me at times, loved me always, guided me, been a sponge as well as a pillar through trying times.

Love you sweetheart... Happy friends day to us.

Confused..

A person asked for water.. I said "I will bring it." The person asked me "you have cold water???" I said "no as we don't drink cold water. I'll bring you normal water to drink". The person said "then I don't want water."

Now I'm confused as to you want water to quench your thirst.. Why be so particular on cold water? If there was an option of choosing between cold water and normal water and you choose cold water then it's fine. When there is only one option you won't even pick it up for an essential need??? I would even accept this for matters which can wait but thirst too???

I'm only left thinking how this person would decide on crucial matters in life??? Is a personal choice that very important than a basic need??? What kind of a mental state he or she would be? How would they look at others needs/preferences?

I can be easily told off "my choice my life" but still I'm pissed off..

Child is the father of man

"Child is the father of man"

It is just not a statement. I learnt the real meaning of it today.

As I was cooking, I was trying to clear up the kitchen table and by mistake dropped the vessel down. I exclaimed "oh!! My God!!"

My two year daughter who was standing near by coolly said "theriyama panite ma".. Meaning you did it unknowingly.. It was just a mistake..

I stood there shocked at how she saw the whole thing. The patience filled inside my little princess. The maturity she had to tackle the situation.

I was also thinking how I would have reacted if I was at her place. Definitely not like her. I would have brought the roof down. Would have given her a big lecture on how things should be handled blah blah blah..

Felt so little in front of my little one..I would always remember this before reacting next time...

Definitely child is the father of man....

Love you princess!!!!

Patience

Patience is indeed a virtue....

How often do I see others and myself losing temper for things that are not worth? This is more like a chain reaction which instigates others too to lose their plot. As a result, situation is completely out of hand, unfavourable and definitely not pleasant.

A moment's patience could have avoided the whole fiasco. Things would have been much better. Definitely.

It is not that the person, whosoever, losses patience is at fault. It all results due to difference of opinion or the time it takes for one to understand.

All it takes is patience. If only we could take a minute to think rationally we can avoid the whole scenario.

It is easily said than done. Though it also depends on the genes to an extent we can still practice to be patient. We will surely get there.

We would then see a different world. We would have a thousand ears to hear what we say. Thousand hands near by to help us. More importantly how many shoulders to support???

The best thing we would get is PEACE itself. What more does one need?

There are so many proverbs indicating the importance of patience. One for instance is "porumai kadalinum peridu" which means "patience is bigger than the ocean itself... "

One would be able to focus much better when he is patient. They are the ones who etch their names in history.

So what can we do to be patient??

We should try to disconnect ourselves from the moment and think why this is happening. Is there something we can do to avoid it? We might be lucky enough to get a solution.

We can try to be silent for sometime rather than aggravating the moment. Words spoken or things done in a haste or anger can never be corrected/ changed. Instead being silent can do some damage control to an extent.

We can keep our mind relaxed by involving ourselves in some thing we really love to do. Something more like a hobby that helps us to unwind. There by we don't stack tension and burst in an unexpected quarter like a dam that would unleash when there is some crack.

Though there are many other ways these are few ways I see, try and would like to keep trying till I succeed...